Ask Martha: Wedding Ceremony Etiquette: Do I need to include family whom I’m not as close with in my wedding party?

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Do I need to include family whom I’m not as close with in my wedding party?

Many brides feel pressure to include more people than they want to in their wedding party when they’re actually not required to ask anyone to participate. But just because you don’t have to consider other people’s desires when selecting attendants doesn’t mean you shouldn’t. In a sticky situation, you have to do a cost-benefit analysis: Weigh how bad the fallout of the hurt feelings will be versus how involving an extra person will affect your vision of your day. If saying no will create family tension, come up with smaller-yet-integral job for them, like handing out programs or doing a reading.