Ask Martha: Wedding Ceremony Etiquette: How do I say no to a family member that wants to speak at the ceremony?

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How do I say no to a family member that wants to speak at the ceremony?

Chances are you’ve allotted a certain amount of time for the I do’s. Explain this to your family member and tell him you’d prefer he showcase his razor-sharp wit and sense of humor with a toast at the rehearsal dinner. Customarily, that’s where family and friends share more informal memories and well-wishes for the couple.